My Flogger My Friend

Description of anatomy of a flogger

I am a professional dominatrix. I have been doing this now, for a little over five years. Honestly, from the moment I picked up a flogger, it was a part of me. Before I transitioned, I never felt comfortable being dominant or even assertive as a man. It just seemed like men often broke things and abused people when they demanded to be in leadership. Truth is I was holding back for that flogger to find it's way into my hand.

My very first flogger, which I still have was brown/grey and the strands were thick and made of suede. When it hits it produces a thud. I love it because I really don't have to do any work to use it. It's weight produces the desired impact. But, since then, I have acquired, almost entirely as gifts some really fun floggers. There are my two twin floggers that are leather (I believe cow hid), long thin strands. I like to use them together and produce kind of a constant movement of energy. If I have music playing, which I always do, i kind of get into whatever rhythm we're listening to. I typically use these to warm the bottom up, and in between the more intense floggers. Then there is my leather flogger with leather knots at the end. It's pretty punishing. Folks either love it or hate it. Those leather knots are almost like ball bearings hitting the skin at different points. And the most punishing one, that was gifted to me by one of my first subs, they called it "cotton candy". It's plush with fake fur on the outside, soft and warm and comforting, but the inside strands are sharp more stiff leather, kind of cutting.

I have a relationship with each one. And each one has it's own relationship with every bottom we play with. I'm an energy witch. Everyone is an energy conductor, but I have learned how to feel it, savor it and direct it. When I first started, my motivation was anger and wanting to release frustration. I still use it to channel that. November 2024, the day we found out our country was going to be going in the dark direction it's going now, I offered free impact sessions. I needed it, and the bottoms needed it as well. We all mourned that day, but it was also a way to feel connected in our grief.

Now, it's a conductor of play and affection. Any kind of impact, including with floggers, should not only be about releasing energy from the top. You should always be in contact with your bottom. Know beforehand, through negotiation, and light play sessions, what your bottom is wanting and ready for. This is not your chance to abuse someone. This is a chance for you to release energy in a healthy way into someone who is wanting it and ready for it. Anything without consent and negotiation is abuse and can produce trauma.

The way you store your flogger is very important. If you have to stuff them in a bag. Try to get a bag that is long, like a gym bag, but even if you only have a backpack, don't just throw them in there. Fold them in half gently and try to give them as much room as possible, maybe give them a little kiss with a promise that you won't just leave them in there. I only put mine in a bag if I'm taking them somewhere. At my dungeon, they are hanging with the strands facing down. If you have to hide them, maybe put them behind a closet door on a door hanger or something. They deserve all the respect and care you can give them, because they're pretty badass.