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I'm sure the title provokes something in some of the readers. If it does, then you may be kinky. Since you're reading this it may be time for you to explore. Do you want to be a good boy? Do you want to be a bratty bad boy, ready to be punished? Does the mommy role, for you, turn into maybe, an aunt, a teacher, a babysitter? This is a fun scenario to play out. We all have mommy issues. We all miss that time when we could curl up, be helpless and be taken care of. Lucky for yo

Believe it or not the sex clubs are kind of boring to me. It seems to be very focused on cumming and there is so much more. Alot of it is ego, which I'm not really interested in, unless I get to play around with it. In fact, sex for most people is mostly related to ego. Most of my femdom scenes involve not cumming. Not allowing the sub to cum or making them delay until I finally say it's ok. All of this is pre negotiated and they know what they're getting into. If I can get

Description of anatomy of a flogger I am a professional dominatrix. I have been doing this now, for a little over five years. Honestly, from the moment I picked up a flogger, it was a part of me. Before I transitioned, I never felt comfortable being dominant or even assertive as a man. It just seemed like men often broke things and abused people when they demanded to be in leadership. Truth is I was holding back for that flogger to find it's way into my hand. My very first fl

This is not an article about the existential question “what am I doing here”, though I’ve smoked some weed so it may very well turn into that. This is about why I am a trans woman living as a professional dominatrix in Portland Oregon. This one is about what the hell am I doing in this lifestyle, on this site, in the groups I’m part of, at my studio. For that I gotta tell you who I am. For that I gotta tell you some family history. For that I dug into my ancestral roots. And

Don't ever tell anyone I told you this, but men have it hard in this society. Expand the frame just a little bit. Everyone has it hard in this society, and women, by far have more obstacles to clear. But yes, our culture is tough on men. More than being strong, which you might or might not be, you have to appear strong. The fear of appearing weak is a something everyone, especially men have to constantly attend to. How many layers of masks do you have in place so that no one

Every week I offer a free meditation space at my studio. We don't do any kind of complicated breathing techniques. We only sit and watch as our body just does this miraculous thing we call breathing. As much as we can we just watch it happen. I have a reason for doing that as a dominatrix. I don't want you to enter into a vulnerable space with me without knowing how to sit, naked (maybe with a group of other people) and just breathe with me. Kink is a religion for me. Alan Wa